C-h-o-r-e-s. Adults loathe them, so why do you expect kids to love them? Well, not unless they are toddlers because they enjoy sweeping the floor and wiping tables.
Giving children responsibilities earlier will not only instill self-help skills but will also make them responsible and accountable. Being able to contribute to the family household will help with their self-esteem, knowing they are worthy and their contribution is essential to the family household.
“But my kids won’t even help me at all!” I often hear this from parents.
Guess what? You really have to start them young. Chores are part of our everyday life, and you can’t just ignore it. So why not include your children with the daily life activities such as cooking or cleaning?
Toddlers can empty the dishes in the dishwasher, they can set the table for themselves or for the family, they can put their own dirty dishes in the sink, they can wipe their spill on the table, they can sweep up a messy floor and so on. While a preschool or school age can do so many things such as putting the rubbish in the wheelie bin, making their own lunch, making their own bed, and hang laundry.
This is part of the parent’s lives but do we get rewarded for washing the dishes? Do we get praise for vacuuming? Certainly not! So, why would it be different for our kids?
No rewards. Even if you’re tempted to.
I tried rewarding my kids by giving them an allowance or adding time for their screen time. Yes, it worked for a couple of weeks and after that it backfired.
“You can wash the dishes and have 30 extra minutes of screen time,”
“Nah, I don’t need extra. I’m good.”
Then I offered it to my other child “No, thank you.”
So who’s left to wash the dishes? Me.
So from then on, I changed my strategy. I talked to them and told them everybody has to contribute and nobody will get rewards. So we planned a schedule and we’re sticking to it. The older they get, the more chores they can do.
And I honestly believe that, if you’re a family living in the same house, everybody needs to contribute! I would not be happy living with someone who just sleeps all weekend and can’t be bothered to help!
In our household, there are some chores they are required to do such as:
- Washing dishes (we don’t use dishwasher) – my kids alternate each night while Sundays are my time 🙂
- If one of them is not washing dishes they set and wipe the table, and sweep the floor after each meal
- They are responsible for their own rooms (vacuuming, wash bedding etc)
- Folding their own clothes after the laundry has been dried
- Tidying cupboards/pantry
- Rubbish and recycling bins
- Putting washed dishes back in the cupboard
- Help with dinner – frying, cooking rice, cutting up vegetables etc
- I add some more depending on circumstances, such as if I am not feeling well. These chores are mandatory.
Now, you’re asking, “Do your kids complain about doing it?”
Yes, most of the time! They often try complaining to get out of their daily chores.
They can complain and that’s okay. But, still, it needs to be done. Yes, it’s a pain in the beginning but it gets better later on. And when everybody understands their responsibility in your household, it is more orderly and you have less worries.
Be consistent, and everybody needs to be consistent too!
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